Bare Facts (was babybear3333)

A (usually) lighthearted and amusing outlook on the real happenings (and vivid imagination) in the day to day life of a walking disaster area/accident waiting to happen/prone to 'blonde' moments 40 something single female...:)

Tuesday, April 24, 2012

My wedding...



My wedding:

Mine was ruined by a so called friend emotionally blackmailing me in to travelling several 100 miles, dragging my four year old daughter on a long train ride... When I got there it was completely evident I was not needed... She had more than enough support from friends and even from her ex hubby... Not to mention the bloomin' cost, issues with my soon to be hubby and various other family members...

Emotional scars of that nature cannot be forgiven for whatever reason.

I had to severely cut back on my own wedding preparations including dress, hair, flowers and clothes for my honeymoon...

The bitch knows who she is and she keeps trying to poke her vicious nose in to my business to the point of visiting me when I was in a coma two years ago and four days after I was transferred to HDU... She should never have been allowed to visit but she barged on to the ward when it was busy and took my buzzer away from me so I couldn't get help as I was in a private room...

What kind of sick individual does that?



My hen night was destroyed as well because of said happenings...


Loyalty, that woman has no concept of right or wrong let lone loyalty...

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

Up yours ATOSsers!!! This one got away ;)


Up yours ATOSsers!!! This one got away ;)

Was up late last night worrying about DLA and resigned myself to having to wait at least eight weeks... 


Got to three brown envelopes and one white one in the post... 


One was an appointment, another a bill, the third DLA acknowledging receipt of my forms on 05/04/12... 


The fourth was my DLA decision letter... 


Full mobility and middle rate care(gone up) 'for two years on the basis of the forms only!!! No ATOSsers, get out of jail (poverty) free, pass go and collect £200!!!

Friday, April 13, 2012

DWP/DLA

DWP!!! They still haven't processed my renewal forms even though they promised, that because of the welfare rights officer being delayed filling them in, they would be treated as urgent...

Lies, f'ing lies and f'ing politicians! My DLA went up this week and runs out next week... So, from next week I will have approx. £65 a week to live on...

When the call centre drone eventually answered my call she asked for my date of birth, which, I gave even thinking at that point it should have been date of supposed death. My forms are at the bottom of a 'decision maker's' pile with no way of getting them processed any quicker unless I'm terminally ill.

I F'ING AM!!! I might not have a bloody date yet but hey, it don't matter to them...

So, from next week I'm losing all my DLA and the disability component of ESA. But 'don't worry' she said, 'we'll backdate your benefit'... Hey said I 'how am I going to pay my bills, buy food etc...?'

But I answered my own question before she could answer 'the dead don't need to eat'...

Name change... Finally...

Thanks to Lavfoz Tpa for this suggestion. Am going with it because I seem to have misplaced my imagination :|

Out with the old and in with the new 'Bare Facts' :)

Monday, April 09, 2012

Bullies...

Bullies (however it's done)... Deserve no compassion (there is no excuse)... They know what they do... Anyone that has ever done any of those things can remove themselves from my page or blog because I do not want you anywhere near me or those I hold dear...

I really should explain the context in which I posted...

I'm speaking out for anyone who's bullied, but most of all our vulnerable people who are being victimised by the government feeding the mass media frenzied attack on sick/disabled/elderly and vulnerable people; portraying them as 'useless benefit scroungers'. The almost daily 'wheeling out of extreme cases' which paint a grotesque parody that the CONDEMS want the public to believe.

Most people have paid tax and NI all their working lives in the mistaken belief that if anything happened to them or their loved ones the state would at least provide basic needs such as health care and subsistence income, ie. a legal minimum amount a person/persons need to live on.

These rates of benefit bare no relation to what it actually costs for the basics such as food, gas, electricity, water rates, telephone (essential because there are no public telephones, or only in cities).

These things aren't even nearly covered by benefits. House contents insurance? Pets? Clothes? Toiletries? I could go on forever and then some, but you get the picture... I'm confident that most people that read this know the truth and if not, they won't mind me giving the information...xxx

What the 'F' are they going to do next...

Cameron, a millionaire, claimed all the benefits he could for his ill son, who sadly passed away. In principle yes, but why did he and his wife need the money?

Now the CONDEMS are taking the very pennies and pounds from the most vulnerable; denying us even basic dignity because we continuously and relentlessly have to be interrogated about what we can and can't do... What we can and can't feel... Our 'worth' to the state... Our 'worth' to society...

Well, I'll tell you something for free, there are very many people facing a situation we as a nation had almost forgotten... Our great grandparents and our grandparents fought two world wars to give us our freedom and democratic society.

Just after WWII our government laid the foundations of the two most important, and globally admired, organisations to give free health care and basic financial security for those of us who, through no fault of their own, found themselves unable to work and/or sick/disabled/elderly/vulnerable.

Our Welfare State and the NHS were the first in the world. This government is treating all the above mentioned people in a way some are scared to voice; but I will: Echoes of a distant past where so many died because they weren't perfect, were of the wrong race, the wrong ideologies, owned too much; the list is endless as I'm sure you know...

We will be judged in following centuries and many will be found wanting; repeating history 67 years after the atrocities/ethnic cleansing/genocide...

I really feel nauseous and cannot write any more today...

Friday, April 06, 2012

Name change...

Lavfoz Tpa What about something along the lines of Bear facts that way u keep some of ur originnal name and a play on the word "bare/bear as well"

That's a great name; will definitely keep that in mind...xxx

Sunday, April 01, 2012

Is blood thicker than water?

In my experience the phrase serves to remind what I have constantly sought for, lost, compromised, but ultimately, something that will never be mine again, apart from with my maternal grandmother and my daughter.

Some might say maybe I was a 'black sheep'. That never was and will never be true.

My crime is that I was different, quirky and did everything straight and more.

I have a beautiful daughter; we, eventually, (against my sister's best efforts) stood by as mother and daughter to the world... It was never their business...

Many people aggrieved us especially after my mam died. I got divorced and in my daughter's terrible tweens it wasn't easy... I tried my best but we were both going through an exceptionally difficult time...

Two days before we moved six members of my family, including extended family, beat me up horrifically. They ripped my clothes, burned me with cigarettes, broke my glasses, slammed my head in to walls, kicked me to the ground, carried on kicking and stamping on me until my youngest 'brother' intervened after watching what his wife, our 'sister', his monster in law, sister in law, other brother's monstrosity of a person did to me and realised that it was way beyond enough...

Two days after we moved someone had social services knocking on the door saying that I was neglectful, lazy (in that I made my daughter walk to school, did not help her get dressed, offer breakfast;). I was always up before her in the morning, made her a cup of tea and breckies if she wanted it. I always drove her to school unless she wanted to walk with one of her friends/or if I wasn't well enough to drive. I was made out to be a BAD parent because I reasonably asked her do a few dishes, bring clothes down for washing, tidy her bedroom. I can count on one hand any time that I ever did that...

I didn't feel that all that crap treatment was fair at the time but when you get people ganging up on you, regardless of the damage that they could and did do to me and my daughter, there is no defence...

Two weeks later my monster in law (brother's wife's mother), wilfully came in to a pub where I was having a few drinks and chat with friends and tried hacking my hair off with scissors... I have waist length hair... In short, she got at me so quick I had no idea what was going on... She then, along with her friend tried to get me done with two counts of ABH. The other woman's family were later found to be responsible for her injuries and I was quitted of any wrongdoing so quickly by the jury it was a surreal experiance...

Well then sweeties, there you have it...

And the last word goes to me... The crocodile tears, false concern and downright bloomin' shite from all of them and a so called 'sick', and I mean seriously fucked up, 'friend' when I was in the coma and recovering two years ago were not welcome.

Strange isn't it how we, even if we're victims, sort of try to hide what people have done because we genuinely cannot understand why they did it...